As women, so many of us find ourselves:
Basing our self-worth on how others see us and on our accomplishments
Defining our value based on our looks
Pleasing everyone on the home front, the family, co-workers, friends and even the church community.
But it doesn’t have to be this way. If only we could see ourselves as God sees us!
We say to ourselves: “I must be loved or approved by every significant other person in my life and all my accomplishments must be great".
The Truth is: If we are living to make sure that others love us, we give them permission to evaluate us based on what we do – we give people the power to determine our self-worth.
We think: If ONLY I had her hair, her height, her weight, her skin, her clothes and etc. then I would be perfect.
The Truth is: If God had intended for us to look like HER He would have made all women to look alike. We have been fashioned and designed by the Master Craftsman to look like WHO we are.
We think: I must please everyone every waking second of my day.
The Truth is: People pleasing goes back to basing our self-worth on the expectations of others! If we are truly His servants, then our primary goal will be to please God first, not others.
We as Christians tend to often live within our comfort zone in order to avoid confrontation, aiming never to give offence or get angry, and then becoming over-responsible. We doubt our self-worth, and because we have a desperate need for approval, fear to say, “No.” Because we believe love and acceptance is earned we live under the lie that we need to do something to gain the love and acceptance of God. But God’s love is unconditional; freely given, through the Lord Jesus, as a gift of grace.
What we think about ourselves will ultimately become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Let me pray for us all now ladies: Dear Father God, I do want to please You. Forgive me for the times I let my desire to be accepted by a person outweigh my desire to please You. Thank You for Your love and for accepting me unconditionally. Thank you Father for creating me to be me. Help me to be a better servant, doing the right thing, not the people-pleasing thing. Give me courage and peace to withstand the pressure I feel when others are displeased with my answers. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who was the perfect servant, Jesus Christ; Amen
Hugs and blessings, Cindy