Mar 4, 2015

Wednesday in the Word-What does "HURT" look like?



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I am not talking about being physically hurt. I am talking about being emotionally, mentally and/or spiritually hurt. Many people that we come in contact with are hurting and hiding their hurt. For a lot of people it isn't easy for them to convey to others their hurts. And can I be just be honest? For some people we'd rather they not convey their hurts because it seems to be a way of life for them.I am sure we have all encountered those that tend to thrive on "there is always something wrong". But for most people I'd be willing to say that a high percentage walk around daily with hearts that are hurting and no one ever notices. 

May I say that so many times that we are so busy that we tend to become immune to those with a hurting heart. We are only "sensitive" when the hurt is ours! And truthfully most often times it is our own difficulties in life that help us to become more sensitive to others. For me personally it is easy for me to minister to someone that is going through something that I've been through.  

I had a lady tell me once that she just wasn't a very sensitive person. We all have different personalities. We all are wired differently there is no doubt. Sometimes our lack of sensitivity stems way more from something deeper than just the norm! 

  But the question I would like to ask of us is this. Why aren't we praying for the Lord to help us to be more sensitive to others? To listen...really listen. To act.....that might mean simply to pray for that person, pray with that person, give them a hug, or ask the question, "Is there anything I can do for you? Sometimes I think I have just flat out missed the opportunity to be a blessing to someone else and other times I've listened...I've understood...and I've got it! How about you?

C.S. Lewis said once, “Mental pain is less dramatic than physical pain, but it is more common and also more hard to bear. The frequent attempt to conceal mental pain increases the burden: it is easier to say “My tooth is aching” than to say “My heart is broken.”

May we pray that our hearts will NOT BE DEAF to the needs of those hurting!



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Hugs and blessings, Cindy

30 comments:

  1. So many in my family are just this hurting person that you described. It makes them bitter and hard. some times those folks aren't very open AT FIRST to your caring and loving on them. It takes time. Thanks Cindy! Great word today.

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    1. You are right....for some people it just simply takes time! Sometimes I have found that simply giving someone a hug and offering a prayer for them helps. There has times that no matter what I sensed or how I offered they declined. And that;s okay too. I just think that we get so caught up in our own problems and our style of life that we often forget to reach out to others. Thanks for popping by!

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  2. T friend I had to back away from lives in a "it's all about me" world full of gloom and doom. My Mom is a "glass half empty" person. For whatever reason, I seem to attract those personality types. To compensate, maybe I'm a bit too sensitive....or just a sucker for a sob story. ;) Do you think there's a fine line between being too sensitive and not enough, if that makes sense? I truly don't want to become calloused to others needs.

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    1. Deb I understand where you are coming from. There has been times I was simply a sucker too. But I think sometimes we just get so busy being busy that we forgot to stop for a minute and just love on someone. And sister, I know all too well about the "glass half empty person) I've got some of those too! Love ya!

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  3. I'd rather have physical pain any day. It's easier to get over! Yes there are a lot of hurting people that we pass daily and we have no clue they are in such deep hurt.
    Connie Royals

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    1. Connie, physical pain (as a rule) will heal but other types of pain can take a lifetime to get over. Just knowing sometime that someone is praying for me or thinks about me sure helps to make the journey easier.

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  4. Hi Cindy, What an important post and so very true. We never know what is going on in a persons life, either from illness or heartbreak. I think it important to remember this when we are out and about and with family and friends. A smile or a listening ear, can make all the difference to someone that is hurting. Thank you for sharing my friend and thank you for your visits and comments while I've been away. LOL Have a blessed day.
    Hugs, CM

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  5. Dear Cindy, you are so annointed in your Wednesdays in the Word. This was so helpful and so true. Sometimes we don't know how to respond to folks when they don't act the way we woulld like and lots of the time it's the hurt that reacts.
    Always love hearing from you.
    Be a sweetie,
    Shelia ;)

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    1. Thanks Sheila for dropping by to see me! You are always like a breath of fresh air to me.

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  6. As always, Cindy, a thoughtful and food-for-though post. Our society teaches us to be stoic and not show pain, which of course makes it all harder to help and be helped. And thanks so much for your sweet comments about our Peter Rabbit bday party! Always love knowing that you visited and hearing from you! ~Zuni

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  7. Mental pain is very hard to carry, yet so many of us not only carry this pain but try to hide it from others. Yes, there are some that always tell you their troubles, and there are many that work hard to hide them. it's very important' to pray for others, to counsel when we can, to offer our ears for listening and our hearts for caring. I am so guilty of being so wrapped up in my life that I sometimes forget others. Thank you for this reminder. Very well said...Sending you wishes for happy and blessed days!

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    1. Hope you are having a blessed day too Miss Mary!

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  8. Cindy, this is such a beautiful post, and so true. Thank you so much for sharing this, I appreciate your inspiring and thought-provoking posts.

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  9. Yes, I have an American friend on FB who once visited me on better times and yet I never knew she had lost her husband, was in financial problems and many more problems that never ends . Now, I can at least pray for her. I wish people do open up, but who am I to say?...I'm good at not showing when I'm sad too.
    Thank you lovely lady for sharing, I so appreciate it.
    Thanks for your kind visit, you made my day!
    Hugs,
    FABBY

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  10. This is so true! We are more sensitive to our own hurts yet there are so many who are hurting inside. They just hide their sadness and pretend to be happy. That just bothers me a lot and I wish that more people could realise that.

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  11. i think the lewis quote explains it so well, cindy:) another great post, cindy!

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  12. Hi Cindy! Great post and timely for me today. I spent some time this morning with a friend I've been praying for who is buried under so much mental and emotional pain. I just don't know how to help her sometimes. Her needs are great--but beyond all the physical/tangible needs is her need for the Lord to truly be at the center of her heart and life. This is a friendship I've been nurturing for some a while and every time I'm with her, I want to whisk her away to the throne room of the Lord. Beyond prayer. Just want to see her "fixed." Guess it doesn't work like that. Praying she opens enough to allow me in a bit more--and the Lord a whole lot more.
    Joy!
    Kathy

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    1. Thank you so much Miss Kathy for stopping by to see me. I have people in my life too that I just want it to be "FIXED". I know that our Lord is the only true ONE that can fix anything and I praise Him that He is still in the "FIXING" business!

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  13. Beautiful message and reminder, Cindy...Christine

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  14. Cindy,
    Another great post!!
    Thanks so much for stopping by!!

    Hugs,
    Deb

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Hugs and blessings, Cindy