May 13, 2015

Wednesday in the Word---How are you doing?

 Recently I ran into a lady that I haven't seen in a while  and I asked her how was she doing and her answer was, "Well, I'd like to say the same thing that everyone else says "fine" but the truth is....I'M NOT FINE and I need prayer. It sort of caught me off guard to be honest as I was expecting the same answer we get and we give a lot..."I'M FINE". Now don't misunderstand me because as I know there are certain people that we come in contact with that WE DARE NOT ASK THEM HOW THEY ARE DOING because THEY ARE NEVER DOING FINE. I hear some of you saying "Amen". 
 But what I am wondering is this....

Do we sometimes tell others we're fine because we think that others expect us to be fine? Are we afraid that if we are honest that it might make others feel uncomfortable? Do we think that by being truthful that it would cause that person to doubt us? Question our security in Christ? Reject us?
Or could it simply be that we don't want to admit that WE AREN'T FINE because WE WANT OTHERS TO THINK WE HAVE IT ALL TOGETHER?

Sometimes it's just not easy to hide the emotion of NOT being fine is it? I know for me on any given day that HORMONES is flying you will know once you get within 3 feet of me that I AIN'T fine! I get hot, ill, act like a crybaby, withdraw or may even have somewhat of a short fuse. It's called "welcome to the world of womanhood". Can I just be HONEST with you? I have to constantly work on that and give it to the Lord, and plead for His help and it is hard some days.

I might not be the brightest crayon in the box but I have learned in 18 years of being in Women's Ministries that sometimes ladies the pretending we do will lead us to isolation, hiding from people, running from the truth, and depression if we are not very careful. We think....in order to be loved and viewed as an acceptable person I must be perfect! Sometimes we think if others knows our weakness and insecurities that they will not love us or accept us. 

The truth is that GOD is perfect so we don't have to be! He never asked us to be perfect. He only asked us to accept His Son Jesus Christ as our Lord and personal Savior and He would do the rest. 

I am not saying run to Walmart and stand in line and tell everyone that walks by that "you're not fine". What I am saying is that as Christian women we are to help bear the burdens of others. 

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 Life can be hard! God allows us to go through things at times that break us in order to define who we are in Him. To mature us and strengthen us along our walk. But...He never intended for us to carry the load alone. He gives us sisters in Christ to help us along the way. 

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Maybe today you simply need to grab a sister and say, "I'm not fine" and I need your prayers. 

May the Lord of comfort be just that for you today...bring you comfort and healing. May we have the mindset of reaching out to those that struggle to ask for prayer.

Hugs and blessings, Cindy



 




 




20 comments:

  1. Oh, I'm such an emotional woman....and you can even tell what "mood" I'm in by reading my blog....I certainly can't hide it....yep, I'm THAT transparent, as you already know! But GOD...love those words....so glad He loves me anyway, in spite of myself!!! LOL....but today, I can honestly say, "I'm fine"....not ask me again in five minutes! :-) Great words of wisdom today, sweet Lady!

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  2. Deb...I am fine today too but today isn't over! LOL! Praise the Lord He does indeed love us just like we are. Happy Wednesday my friend!

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  3. Cindy, thank you for always being real.
    Connie Royals

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  4. I always say 'I'm fine' even when I'm not. I always think, 'they don't really want to know.' It's just a nice way we greet people. Maybe I need to 'rethink' my 'thinking.' Great message. Hope your Wednesday is Wonderful.

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    1. Thanks Miss Mary for stopping by. Yes mam I agree...it is always a great way to greet. My purpose of the devotional today was hoping that it opens the eyes for women to know that it's okay Not to be fine and to hopefully reach out and ask others in the faith to pray for them. I by no means meant that it was a proper and great way to greet others. Hope you are having a great day too Miss Mary!

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  5. Really awesome message, Cindy. Sometimes we do lose sight of our need for "sharing one another's burdens". We can all benefit from having our prayer partners. I've always tried to maintain three groups of people in my life: Role models, mentors, and accountability/prayer partners. When I've had those in place it has served me well. When I get a little out of balance in my life I can usually track it to loosing one or more of these groups in my day to day life. That is especially true when I drift from interaction with my accountability/prayer partners. Thanks for the reminder of how much I need that interaction. Have a blessed week. Love ya!!

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    1. Thanks Tammy and what a wonderful source of groups. Have a great day!

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  6. I AM fine today! Because there are sisters helping carry the burden on my heart. I have some wonderful friends - you are one of them! - who understand when I say I'm not fine. Thank you for this good word today. And for praying.
    ~Adrienne~

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    1. So glad to call you friend and I am honored to pray for you as you are for me!

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  7. ugh! this is how I feel today! and I need prayer! I try very hard to keep my "hormones" in check and it is causing me to have adverse reactions. I am going right now to talk to a Sister so that I don't feel so burdened. {{Hugs}} my friend and just as always, a timely word! :)

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    1. Awe Joy. Praying right now and asking God to give you what you need. Accept my big old hug right now! God's Word is timely for all of us. Women has shared with me through the years is that their biggest issue at times is feeling like they can be themselves and just reach out. So glad you chimed in today.

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  8. Hi Cindy, I think you wrote this for me. I so needed to read this today. We are not perfect and not always fine but sometime people place us in that category and it is impossible to live up to. I've had that kind of pressure placed on me a time or two. It's not easy but I am learning to Let Go and Let God. Not every day is fine, but they still outweigh the "not so fine" days. It's okay to be human and admit it.
    Thank you for sharing my friend.
    Hugs and Blessings, CM

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    1. Awe...thank you for sharing your heart and realness today. Praise the Lord that the GOOD outweigh the BAD!

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  9. Cindy,
    Wonderful post that touched my heart. I am guilty of always being "fine" when truth be told, I am physically falling apart. I do always say "fine" because i do not want to burden others with all my health issues. I even put on a happy face for my own family.
    I won't go in to details but my knee is fast deteriorating and I am trying to go part time which seems to be a bit of an issue at work so I will ask you for your prayers today that I will be able to go part time soon which will help at improving my health!!

    Thanks so much for uplifting me today!! I needed it. Cindy!!!

    And thanks for always dropping by and brightening my days...

    Hugs,
    Deb

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    1. Awe sweet lady. thanks for your encouragement of my posts. I am praying for you right now friend.

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  10. I can tell you I tend to be one of those ladies that is always "fine" I have certain friends that won't let me get away with that line those and they are willing to take time and pursue (not accepting the I'm fine answer) Let's be real is there any day that we don't need prayer for something, that we aren't struggling with something. I 'm thankful for those friends that are willing to ask the harder questions...it's a wonderful example to me. Great post Cindy

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Hugs and blessings, Cindy