If not treated correctly it will be a like a Thief and Steal your Joy, your Health, your Thought life and even God-given plans that He has for your life. If not careful PLEASEITUS will LIMIT us from what God actually WANTS from us in our lives.
May I be honest? I truly feel that God wants me to address this subject as so many women, friends and family that I love and care about struggle in this area so much. As much as I strive to be alert to this disease called PLEASEITUS I do have a tendency to become caught up in it and if not for my husband with his gentle and sweet reminders (I see Pleaseitus showing up) I would be a mess!
So here is how it goes.................
We don't want to hurt the feelings of anyone. We want to truly help everyone in whatever situation they may be in. We hate saying NO to people---which people by the way includes family, friends, acquaintances and etc. At times we even put our own immediate family members last on the list in fear of disappointing others. OR, we are so afraid that we will disappoint our family that we allow our PLEASING them to actually control our lives. We try to be SO MUCH to everyone else that we struggle to BE ANYTHING to ourselves.
When we have PLEASEITUS it causes one to feel tired emotionally and physically. It even affects ones spiritual life.Emotionally you feel drained and even at times somewhat confused. We think, "If I don't say yes then people will not like me". Or, I can't stand the thoughts of disappointing that person. Or, I don't want to let them down.
Physically we become tired. Remember, PLEASEITUS keeps you PLEASING which makes one perform more therefore NOT allowing for your body, mind and well-being to rest. We tend to go, go, go, and do, do, do. And we wonder? Why am I so tired?
Spiritually we become so caught up with PLEASING everyone else except the ONE that we should please....His name is JESUS!
Galatians 1:10 (Image credit)
I'd like to share just a few things
PLEASEITUS will rob you of the ability to relax.
When we are so busy pleasing everyone else, taking care of their needs and wants, we find ourselves burning the midnight oil. Not enough rest whether it be physically or mentally leads us to fatigue, health related sickness, and weariness of the mind. We find ourselves struggling to exist.
PLEASEITUS actually limits us.
When we are so busy being busy it actually puts limits on us as to what our personal needs are. We can't take care of US when we are constantly caring for others. (I don't mean care-giving in general) I think you know what I mean. The thing or things that God has called us to truly do for His Glory winds up a lot of times I am afraid sitting on the back burner.
PLEASEITUS labels us.
I can spot a people pleaser quick like....I used to be one!
Can I be totally honest now? The fact of the matter is that when we try to please EVERYBODY, we end up pleasing NOBODY!
In a conversation I recently had with a lady about this subject her comment was, "Jesus came to serve not to be served". Yes that is so true...but I am so afraid she still missed the mark! Jesus wants us to PLEASE HIM and by doing so we then can be pleasing to others in the way the Lord intended.
I wonder....now think with me for just a moment please...and once again I say, I wonder?
Could our "PLEASEITUS" actually be a fear of rejection? Do you think that deep down we truly feel this is our only way of being accepted by our family, friends, acquaintances?
Could it be that we want to CONTROL the situation at hand so therefore we just DO IT!
My dear friend reading this today....My prayer for you is the same for myself.....May we always be reminded that our true worth is in Christ. May we strive to bring balance to our lives. May we live a life that our standard is based on the standard of Christ. May this be our theme Scripture: Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.
Hugs and blessings, Cindy