Jul 16, 2014

Wednesday in the Word-How does your husband treat his mother?

For some reading this post today the words may not affect you for whatever reasons. This post is to simply share my heart with you today.

A lady once said, "If you want to know how a man will treat his wife and his daughters then look at how he treats his mother". I've never truly thought about that comment until recently. 

Watching how my man treats and acts towards his mother has conveyed that simple comment into much truth for me.

I have watched how he treats his mother and it is with respect, honor, dignity, kindness and gentleness. Of course I am quite sure it was probably not always like that when he was growing up and through the teenage years but I got this gut feeling that he has always been respectful of his mama.

With the age of care giving at hand I have witnessed such tenderness and gentleness. 

 I have witnessed this before the age of care giving took place! This hasn't "just" begun!

  We take so much for granite at times and we tend to not pay very much attention to the little things in life when indeed it is the smallest of things that bring the greatest pleasures. 

The Bible says in Ephesians 6:1-4 (ESV)
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. 

Exodus 20: 12 (ESV) “Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you. 

Leviticus 19:32 (ESV)

“You shall stand up before the gray head and honor the face of an old man, and you shall fear your God: I am the Lord

  In my journal I wrote...My heart is tender as.....

As I watch my man tenderly lead his mama as she walks. Picks up her dropped popcorn off the floor and makes out like he dropped it. Fluffs the pillows for her back so she will be comfortable. Puts her bedroom slippers on her feet. Cuts her food up for her if he thinks the bites are too big. Gently leads her to the bathroom but yet honorably gives her her privacy if needed. Helps her to think of what she is trying so hard to say but can't quite get it all out. Laughs at her stories as if he has heard them for the first time. Gently strokes her arm as if he would really just like to crawl up into her arms. Fills her water bottle up and holds the bottle if she needs for him too while she drinks. Tucks her into bed at night when it's our turn to stay with her and pulls up the covers around her like he used to do for our daughters. Tells her goodnight as if he is talking to a child with such tenderness and well, my list could go on.


I don't share this with you to say "Oh what a great son he is". I share this with you to say, The comment was so true..." "If you want to know how a man will treat his wife and his daughters then look at how he treats his mother".


How do I know this to be true? He treats me just like that and his grown daughters and now his granddaughters.


The Bible says in Ephesians 5:28-33 (NIV)

23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

Speaking about Fathers and Daughters:

A father has the opportunity to demonstrate to his daughter how a godly man treats a woman, setting the standard for her future relationships with men. In the same token in regards to daddy's and daughters, don't think for one minute that your daughter will NOT recognize how her daddy treats her mom! They watch and they listen. Even when they are grown adults.


I've said many times that my motherinlove has raised some good children. But I can tell you this...I am so glad she raised the man that God picked out just for me that would treat me just like he does his mama! 

But, I must say this as well, his daddy was a great teacher.  He taught my man the importance of being a good husband and a good daddy.  You see, my husband has watched his daddy....He has witnessed first hand the sacrifices that one makes for his wife and children. He has witnessed the tenderness and gentleness of his daddy with his mama.

I read this cute poem once and it goes like this:

My little eyes are watching,
My ears are listening too.
They take in everything
That you say and do.

My little hands are eager
To do the things you do.
I'm hoping and I'm dreaming
I'll grow up just like you.

I am just a little guy
Who knows that you are wise
You'll teach me what I need
For someone just my size.

I'm a bright eyed little fellow
Who is watching what you do
And I'm waiting for the day
I'll be grown up just like you.

Author: Author: Patsy Gaut 

My three daughters are always saying, "Daddy spoils you"!
Yes he does and it can be blamed on his daddy...He taught him well!

The truth is my friend...our children will become what we teach them! May we teach them well.


 Thanks for letting me share my heart today. 

 Hugs and blessings, Cindy




  1. No, Cindy, it is us who need to say thank you to YOU for sharing your heart. What a blessing it is to read here today. Reading how your husband treats his mama brought back so many memories of how my husband treated his mom...especially in those last years of her life. Thank you, Cindy, for sharing your heart. Big hugs coming your way from me. ~wink~

  2. What a blessing Mr. Marty is to you. When I met him one of the things I noticed was what a gentleman he is. Your words have opened my eyes to some things in my own life. Thank you, my friend.

  3. Such a sweet and sincere post of the heart today Cindy.
    Connie Royals

  4. thanks miss Cindy that's what my mama used to always say. She's been gone now since the 80's. she also always said honor your husbands mom she's the one that made him like he is.great little poem she never said that, only girls in my family except for my dad no boys. thanks for the sweet memories.

  5. This is excellent advice and some that I've heard often through the years. I wonder if it holds true as well for watching to see how a daughter treats her father. Your husband sounds like a salt of the earth kind of guy!

  6. What a beautiful post Cindy. You can see the kindness in their eyes. You're a lovely lady and deserve the blessing of being surrounded by so much kindness. You have a very beautiful family and I just have to add... "I *Love* your hair!"

    Have The Best Day Ever!

  7. your life is full of blessings, cindy:) thanks for the sweet,tender post!

  8. You are one lucky lady! Mr. Man sounds like a true loving gentleman! We've gone through that time of life with my parents and my Wonderful Hubby was right by my side helping, supporting and taking care of my folks. He's done that with his dad before he passed and will be, I know, when his mom is in need. You reap what you sow - we have been blessed with loving caring parents and grandparents. They showed us the way; we will pass it on to the next generation.


So glad you stopped by to visit.
Hugs and blessings, Cindy